Do you suffer from bouts of disappointment? Some days, it can feel so overwhelming and frustrating that you “don’t know why you bother”!? Today I heard a rider saying “everyone is telling me to take my horse out and compete, he is going so well at home.” She went on to say “the problem is when we go out it goes wrong and it is always so disappointing”
A common situation. Most of us understand the sentiment and the dilema. So why do we feel such disappointment and hang on to it to go on and tell others we are feeling it?
Believe it or not, the things that can cause us to feel disappointment (like pending shame) also trigger the ‘reward centre in our brains!
This explains why it can be so appealing (unconsciously) to heap guilt and shame on ourselves — it activates the brain’s reward center.
Bottom line, in the short term, worrying makes your brain feel a little better — at least you’re doing something about your problems.
In fact, worrying can help calm the limbic system by increasing activity in the medial prefrontal cortex and decreasing activity in the amygdala. So, if you’re feeling anxiety, doing something about it — even worrying — is better than doing nothing!
Is there an antidote?
Yes there is but get ready to feel disappointed… it isn’t complex and it’s not hard to master!
What is it?
Ask yourself …. “WHAT AM I GRATEFUL FOR?”
The benefits of gratitude start with the dopamine system, because feeling grateful activates the brain stem region that produces dopamine. Do you know what Prozac does? It boosts the neurotransmitter serotonin. So does gratitude! Only gratitude is free, without side effects, and accessible to everyone 24 x 7!
So remember whenever you feel disappointed your brain is smiling and happy! To avoid your brain taking over and keeping you in a perpetual state of manufactured disappointment, take the reins and flip into Gratitude to kick start your dopamine levels, reduce stress and kill all need for disappointment! “How disappointing” your brain will say!